Published: May 21, 2014
I am a genetic male with recurrent questions about my gender identity. Straddling desires to maintain my stature in the professional world, keep my wife at my side and become who I feel like I am, I have experimented with crossdressing, chastity, antiandrogens and, prior to all that, steroids. While the matrimonial veto has been enacted for some feminine expressions, my wife and I have reached a middle ground where I can pursue sexual and aesthetic androgyny. I have started wearing unisex clothes, stepped up cardio to sculpt a more feminine shape, and I am getting hair removal done. I want to keep my sex drive and sexual organs intact, but I want to urinate like a woman with no choice but to sit. There are body-modification communities out there that showcase this type of procedure (urethral reroute/relocation), but I don’t know where to find someone to do it for me. A legitimate urologist should do this type of work, but even with my gender-amorphous desires in play, I’m not sure I can put together a justification strong enough for a doctor. Any advice? Do you know any piercers who have done this kind of work?
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“Most urologists aren’t qualified to do this, let alone piercers – although I know that there are aggressive ‘body modifiers’ out there. I wind up cleaning up their messes,” says Dr. Keith D. Newman, a urologist and a Fellow of the American College of Surgeons. “So my main piece of advice for SITTERS is to have a urologist do this, preferably someone who has experience with this surgery.”
The procedure you’re curious about – creating a new pee hole on your taint, behind your balls, which would leave you with no choice but to sit when you pee – is a perineal urethrostomy.
The biggest consequence is a heightened risk of urinary-tract infections due to your shortened urethra. The urethra is the tube that runs from our bladders, where urine is stored, to our pee holes. Women’s are shorter, making it easier for bacteria and other bugs to get up into the bladder and cause infections. But urinary-tract infections aren’t your only worry. “Any artificial orifice has a certain incidence of stricture,” said Dr. Newman. “So the opening might need frequent dilations or more surgery if this complication arises.”
By “stricture,” Dr. Newman means “your new pee hole could shrink, narrow and start to close up.” And by “frequent dilations,” Dr. Newman means “you could wind up shoving steel rods up your urethra to stretch your new hole back open – frequently.” And there’s more!
“There may be less than full diversion of urine (some may still come out the end of the penis) unless the urethra distal to the new opening is closed,” says Dr. Newman. “If it is closed, then we run into issues of what is called a ‘mucous fistula,’ and the urethra beyond the diversion might need to be irrigated from time to time. Similarly, urinary dermatitis may occur – that’s diaper rash – so perineal care and good hygiene will be a must.”
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