Published: February 19, 2014
“There are lots of men who explore this fantasy just because they think it’s very sexy to imagine or see their wife having hot sex with someone else and being fully satisfied,” said Ley. “One very interesting biological theory for this is related to the concept of sperm competition. Essentially, the theory goes that men get physically aroused when they know that their sperm might have to compete with those of another man, in order to possibly (even theoretically) impregnate a woman. In such circumstances, the men thrust harder and deeper during sex, they ejaculate harder and their ejaculate contains more sperm.”
As for your wife’s restrictions, Ley thinks your wife is testing you. “She’s setting boundaries,” said Ley. “She wants to see how serious CUCK is, how he’s going to react. And she’s also establishing some level of independence. It’s her body and her sexuality, too, after all.” Ley thinks you guys are coming at this from a good place. Your marriage is on the upswing, you’re talking about your desires openly and honestly, and you’re willing to compromise. “I’ve worked with couples who have made this fantasy and lifestyle work,” said Ley. “And the key component is communication, grounded by mutual trust and respect. If you pursue this, do it with honest communication on both your parts.”
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I am a straight 19-year-old girl in college. I broke up with my boyfriend of several months a week before Valentine’s Day (a WHOLE nother situation), and during that relationship, I met this other guy, one of his friends. This friend has been in a relationship for 2.5 years. But his girlfriend cheated on him, and now he has a free card to go fuck someone else. He wants that person to be me! We have fooled around some, but even though I am not looking for a relationship right now, I have reservations about fucking someone who is in a relationship, even if it’s on a Go Fuck Someone Else card. Advice?
Uneasy And Unsure
Unless there are just two guys at your college – your ex and this dude with the Go Fuck Someone Else card – I would urge you to fuck someone else. This scenario has drama written all over it. Your ex will be pissed at you for fucking his friend, he’ll be pissed at his friend for fucking you, the friend’s girlfriend will be pissed at you for fucking her boyfriend – GFSE card or no GFSE card. Who needs that kind of grief? Find a hot student, RA, TA or prof who isn’t in your circle and fuck him instead.
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