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My girlfriend snooped on my browser history the other day to see what porn I look at. I’ve told her I look at porn a few times a week, and she said she didn’t mind. She asked me what I look at, and I was mostly honest. My viewing habits are pretty vanilla except for BBW porn. It’s not my go-to, but it was what she found the day she snooped. She had some issues, and I don’t know how to address them. I’m not more attracted to overweight women, but sometimes that type just does it for me. Compounding this, my girlfriend is overweight – not on par with the women in the videos – and now she’s worried that her weight is the only reason I’m attracted to her. It’s not! How can I explain this to her and put her mind at ease?
Busted Boyfriend Worries

If you looked only at porn that featured conventionally attractive women, your girlfriend would be worried that you’re not attracted to her because of her size. But she caught you looking at BBW porn, and now she’s worried that her size is the only reason you’re attracted to her. I don’t think you can win, BBW, but you can try saying this: “I like women of all shapes and sizes, honey, including yours – as you can clearly see if you look at all the porn sites I’ve visited, instead of just obsessing about that particular one.” I don’t think it’ll do much good, because your girlfriend probably doesn’t want you looking at porn at all – saying it’s OK, snooping and grilling aren’t signs of “OK with porn.” So use private browsing, clear your browser history or watch porn on a secure computer in an undisclosed location.

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