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Closeted gay men don’t use colored T-shirts to send messages to out gay men. They use Craigslist.
Look, Jeffrey Dahmer – aka the Milwaukee Cannibal – ate a friend of mine. By which I mean to say: Some gay people are insane. I’m not saying you’re in danger of being drugged, raped, butchered and eaten by this guy from your writing group. But the guy is – if your account is accurate – more than a little unpleasant and a whole lot batshit. Confide in some friends in your writing group about what’s going on and be prepared to leave the group and/or form a breakaway group if Mr. Red Sweater continues to detect clues in your wardrobe. Also: Do not spend any more time alone with this guy. Someone who would accuse you of making super-secret passes at him via red T-shirts is capable of making baseless accusations about much worse.
And finally, a bonus pro tip: Writers don’t need a writers’ group to write. They just need to write.

GAY AND COUPLED AND NOT MONOGAMOUS? A Savage Love reader and sex researcher is studying “relationship satisfaction among nonmonogamous gay couples.” His research is focused on gay male couples that have sex with other men but not relationships with other men, i.e., not guys in poly relationships, just open ones. If you’re gay, coupled and nonmonogamous but not poly, and you have a few minutes to spare for science – science! – take the survey at socialsci.com/s/relationshipsurvey.

On the Savage Lovecast, Dan speaks with a human-rights attorney on how Chelsea Manning can expect to be treated in prison, at savagelovecast.com.

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