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Savage Love

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I can’t believe there are still queers out there hatin’ on drunk straight girls (DSGs) who make out with other DSGs to attract the attention of drunk straight boys (DSBs). Same-sex marriage is making significant gains, but it remains illegal in 38 states, Congress has yet to pass the Employment Non-Discrimination Act, the HIV-infection rate among young gay and bi men is up, and trans people who just want to use the toilet are being attacked in schools and state legislatures across the country. The queer community has 99 problems – at least – but DSGs making out with DSGs ain’t one.

I’m a female in my early 20s and have been seeing a really great guy for a few months. We’ve been having lots of awesome vanilla sex, but I dig light spanking. I have told him this, and he talks some hot dirty talk about what he’s GOING to do to me, but there’s no follow-through. This discomfort is linked to some abuse he witnessed – his stepdad hurt his mother. I like him and I’m happy to wait for him to ease into it slowly, but how much time do I leave between mentioning it? It’s been at least a month since I last brought it up, and I’ll go crazy if I don’t get some kinky sex soon.
Missing My Kink

Here’s what you need to tell your boyfriend: “Vaginal intercourse without consent is rape, but vaginal intercourse with consent is sex. You can wrap your head around that, right? So you should be able to wrap your head around this: Spanking someone without consent is assault, but spanking someone with consent is sexy. And you’re going to spank me right now, with my consent, and it’s going to be hot.”

Straight guy here. No sex question. I just want you to tell me what is up with two guys at my gym. The skinnier dude does all the grunt work – sets up the weights, puts them back, wipes down the equipment – while the bigger dude stands there. The skinnier one can’t be the bigger dude’s personal trainer. Yesterday when the bigger dude noticed his shoe was untied, he pointed to his shoe, and the skinnier dude knelt and tied his fucking shoe for him. What the hell?
Most Everyone At The Gym Is Freaked

What you’ve described sounds like a not-nearly-subtle-enough, semipublic Dom/sub muscle worship scene. But I could be wrong. So if you have to know for sure what’s up, you’ll have ask the bigger dude. If it turns out these dudes are doing some sort of public Dom/sub scene, and the point is to humiliate the scrawnier dude, the bigger dude will be only too delighted to tell you about it.

Savage Lovecast: Tales of open relationships gone horribly wrong. And vibrator-addiction syndrome – are you at risk? All at savagelovecast.com.

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