Published: November 14, 2012
I am a twentysomething bi guy who loves sucking cock. I especially enjoy when the recipient really enjoys himself (which is often) (not to gloat) (but I just did). Anyway, my problem is that I don't really enjoy receiving. I have received head from three guys, which I realize is not a large sample size, but every time it has been a nonevent. It's almost like I can't even feel a mouth on my dick. How do I fix this?
Blowjob Boredom Blues
In sex comedies, sitcoms and porn, head is always presented as the ultimate sexual experience, but in reality, some men just don't dig head. But three cocksuckers is a pretty small sample. Let a few other guys suck your dick, but don't stress out if nothing changes. It could be a preference, BBB, and not a malfunction.
My wife and I have been together for 20 years. I love to receive oral, but my wife has no interest when I try to return the favor. She claims it does nothing for her. We celebrated Obama's reelection with a bottle of wine in the bedroom. When I made a move downstairs, she didn't stop me. However, she said it tickled her like crazy. Is this common? Is there something I can do to make this experience less hilarious for my wife?
What's So Funny?
Some women struggle with hang-ups or body issues that make it difficult for them to relax and enjoy being on the receiving end of oral sex. But some women who don't struggle with hang-ups or body issues simply don't enjoy receiving oral sex. If your wife is generally comfortable in her own skin and with her own body, WSF, you may have to take her word for it when she says that oral sex does nothing for her. But if it truly does nothing for her – "nothing" would include "annoy" and "turn off" – maybe she can lie back and enjoy what it does for you.
I am a 22-year-old female who's only ever achieved orgasm during fellatio, and my boyfriend will not perform fellatio on me! I have tried bringing it up during sex, but he didn't cooperate. He told me that he didn't want to do that to me because a mutual female friend told him that I didn't want him to do that to me. I did tell her that at the beginning of our relationship, but I don't feel that way anymore! I'm way too embarrassed now to ask again, because it would feel like I was begging him for fellatio. Please help me!
Need To Get Mine
Try asking your boyfriend for cunnilingus, NTGM, not fellatio. If that doesn't do the trick – if he doesn't start eating your pussy – then DTMFA.
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