Published: October 3, 2012
Is it OK to want to be single for 15 more years?
More and more people are delaying marriage or remaining single – you might want to read Hanna Rosin's The End of Men and Eric Klinenberg's Going Solo: The Extraordinary Rise and Surprising Appeal of Living Alone – so yeah, it's OK. It's generally OK to make your own choices and live your own life.
Should I not have sex with my best friend's babydaddy even though he was my boyfriend before he was hers and we were about to get back together before I found out my best friend was pregnant?
Yes, you should not.
Do you have any advice for non-openly-gay people at a school where gays are almost nonexistent?
Recognize that you're part of the problem. The non-openly-gay people at your school – you and the other closeted gays – create a negative nonexistence feedback loop. You don't come out because no one's out, and no one comes out because you're not out. My advice: If you're in a position to come out, come out. If you're not in a position to come out, make plans to get to a place where you can come out. And in the meantime, refrain from whining about a problem that your choices and/or limitations contribute to creating.
How do you tell someone that they are bad at sex?
You don't. You tell someone that there are particular ways you like to be touched/kissed/fucked/bound/whatever and you encourage someone to touch/kiss/fuck/whip/bind you in those particular ways. Hopefully this will lead to someone getting better at sex over a few months. If someone doesn't get better at sex in that time frame, well, then someone either is incapable of getting better at sex or doesn't care that you're unhappy with the sex, and it's time to dump someone.
If a guy asks a girl if she wants to have anal sex, is he curious about gay sex?
Why do guys think threesomes are so amazing?
Because they are – especially the gay ones.
I'm a guy who does not find guys physically attractive. Even so, I like to give and receive blowjobs with men.
Does this mean anything about my sexual orientation?
I've always considered myself a lesbian, but a few weeks ago, I got really drunk and slept with one of my male best friends.
Am I not a lesbian?
Female sexuality is a lot more fluid, as they say, and many lesbian-identified women have slept with men. Your sexual identity – the label you choose to apply to yourself – should communicate the essential truth about your sexual interests and partner preferences. So you're free to identify as a lesbian even if you slip and fall on the occasional dick.
Who is your dream guy?
Janice from the Muppets with a dick.
OK, Radford, that was fun, but we're out of room. Thanks for the invite and the great event!
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