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I'm a 22-year-old FTM

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"Being isolated from other trans folks leaves little room to find support and role models for loving yourself," said Goetzen. "And it makes getting invaluable tips on how to get laid safely and carefully harder."

You know, invaluable tips like the ones Buck provided you with today. Want more tips like those? Then get to know some of the guys out there who have successfully navigated the path you're stumbling along.

Getting married soon. We want toput a note in the invitation requesting donations to organizations fighting for marriage equality in lieu of gifts. Which organization is fighting the hardest/most effectively in your view?

Gonna Get Married

Freedom to Marry (freedomtomarry.org), National Center for Lesbian Rights (nclrights.org), and GetEqual (getequal.org) - and thanks and congrats, GGM!

I'm wondering whether you have anythoughts on the male tendency when sharing "naughty" photos to go straight for a close-up shot of the penis. Representative Anthony Weiner's tweeting disaster has brought to mind a number of recent cases where high-profile men - such as Kanye West and Brett Favre - sent other women similar shots in an apparent attempt to seduce them. However, the response I've heard from women to such offerings can be summed up as "Ew, yuck!"

Do you have any insight on why some men think this sort of overture would work?

Totally Confused Female

Some men think this sort of overture works because sometimes it works.

Before we get into that, I want to say a few words about Anthony Weiner: Nothing the gentleman from New York said last week made him sound like a man who hasn't taken a picture of his cock at some point and sent it to someone for some reason. Nevertheless, I'm confident that Weiner is going to beat this thing.

Watching Weinergate unfold is like watching the voters-getting-over-politicians-who've-smoked-pot story play out all over again, only this time at warp speed and with sexting standing in for THC. With pot, we went from exposure resulting in an instantaneous resignation in 1987 (Supreme Court nominee Douglas Ginsburg) to a tacit admission being a survivable mini-scandal in 1992 (Bill "Smoked, Didn't Inhale" Clinton) to a collective shrug in 2008 (Barack "I Got High" Obama). With dirty pol pics, we've gone from instant resignation in February 2011 (Representative Christopher "Craigslist Congressman" Lee) to a tacit admission looking like a survivable mini-scandal in June 2011 (Representative Anthony "Beat This Thing" Weiner). At this rate, we'll be shrugging off the dirty pics of a congressman-to-be-named-later sometime before Labor Day.

Getting back to your question: The cock-shot overture doesn't work on most women, I'll grant you, but the sort of guys who send cock shots aren't interested in most women. They're interested in the sort of women on whom this sort of overture works. And the sort of men who think only with their photogenic dicks - and not all men are that sort - figure the quickest way to determine if a woman is that sort of woman is to send the cock shot.

Despite a unanimous "Ew, yuck!" from your friends, there are women out there who do respond positively. One of the women you talked to about cock shots may have thought, "Well, it depends on the guy," but told you, "Ew, yuck!" because it was clear from the "Ew, yuck!" look on your face that "Ew, yuck!" was what you wanted to hear.

Gentlemen: The existence of a handful of women who welcome cock shots does not give you license to send cock shots to all women. Cock shots are for women who have expressed a clear and unambiguous interest in receiving cock shots.

Speaking of Buck Angel: Documentary filmmaker Dan Hunt (Cruel & Unusual, Dangerous Living, Bear Run) is working on a film about Buck Angel's life, work and activism. Hunt has been following Buck for six years and now needs to raise $6,000 to hire an editor to help him shape the film. Please join me in helping Hunt to finish Mr. Angel by making a donation via Kickstarter: tinyurl.com/3d8wmtf.

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