>My husband and I recently realized that in order for us to remain happily married, we need to fuck other people.
Published: June 2, 2011
And while I can't tell you exactly what's wrong with your hunk's dick - it could very well be the infamous limpothalamus (that would be the part of the brain that doesn't want to bone a married woman; most men don't have one) - I can tell you that you're doing everything right. You're not pressuring him, you're taking pleasure in him regardless and you're not neglecting your husband. And if your hunk was getting it up for his previous partners, it's only a matter of time before he's getting it up for you.
But was he getting it up for his previous partners? Unless you've seen some video - and that's video we'd all like to see - all we have to go on is his word, and he could be lying. Young hunks with erectile problems, too embarrassed and/or ashamed to admit they have a problem, will sometimes lie to their partners and refuse to speak to doctors. But your hunk has someone older and wiser telling him what to do, NMR, and you're going to tell him to talk with a doctor.
Is it better to stay with your over- weight wife - who happens to be the mother of your infant daughter - and cheat on her to get sexual gratification (and be a shit of a husband) or leave her (and be a shit of a father)?
Almost Twice The Wife
Cheating shit or leaving shit - are those your only options?
If they are, ATTW, then stay and cheat. Abandoning an infant - to say nothing of abandoning someone with an infant - is a shit move. So is cheating on the mother of your infant daughter, of course, but it's slightly less shitty.
Here's another option: You could go without for six months or a year - you know,like most new parents.
Backing way up: You were presumably attracted to your wife before the baby, and presumably, the mother of your infant daughter is going without right now, too, as she's probably too exhausted to bother with sex. She also may not be feeling it for her asshole husband, a man who she senses doesn't find her attractive in her current state -a state he helped put her in.
Take a little responsibility here, ATTW: You knocked the wife up knowing that pregnancy and its tragic aftermath, aka "parenting," leave new moms with very little time for the gym. If you expected your wife to bounce back to her pre-baby weight in 10 weeks, like some sort of celebrity mom, then you needed to get her two nannies, a personal trainer and a full-time nutritionist.
Perhaps I'm being too hard on you, ATTW. Your letter is all I had to go on. For all I know, your wife is one of those lousy spouses who abandon routine physical maintenance once the first kid arrives, because, hey, now you're stuck! Forgoing routine physical maintenance is the mother of all take-you-for-granted moves, one that quickly kills desire and slowly smothers love, and it can constitute grounds for cheating and/or leaving. (Normal and natural aging, health issues that make routine maintenance impossible, etc. do not by themselves constitute grounds for cheating and/or leaving.) But it's too soon to know if your wife is one of those lousy take-you-for-granted spouses,as your daughter is still an infant.
Masturbate, help out, make sure your wife has the free time she needs to take care of herself and you may find that you don't have to be any sort of shit.
I'm writing about the "Choicer Challenge" you've issued to all the bigots out there who say that being gay is a choice. I think you've set yourself up for a possible failure here, Dan.
I'm a straight guy. I am also a stubborn motherfucker. If I were one of those choicers, Dan, I would suck your dick just to win the argument. That's why the Choicer Challenge should say that they have to suck you off while maintaining a glass-cutting boner. I could probably will myself to blow you to prove a point, but willing myself to get hard during it? Not possible!
Good point, BM. The Choicer Challenge is hereby amended to include the production of a glass-cutting boner while blowing me. I'm waiting for your call, John "Choicer" Cummins.
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