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>My husband and I recently realized that in order for us to remain happily married, we need to fuck other people.

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My husband and I recently realized that in order for us to remain happily married, we need to fuck other people.

Enter the boyfriend. This 20-year-old hunk has opened the sexual floodgates. He's gorgeous and athletic and enthusiastic, he gets me off at least twice every time we get together and tales of our exploits have made things even hotter between my husband and me. Everybody's happy!

So what's the problem? Well, after two months of dating and numerous sexual encounters, my new lover has yet to get an erection. I know he's been able to get it up with previous partners, so I suspect this has something to do with our situation. Maybe there's a subconscious part of his brain that doesn't want to bone a married woman? I've made it clear to him that there is no pressure and that I am more than satisfied. He insists that he is very attracted to me and that our current activities (lots of oral and hands everywhere) are incredibly satisfying.

Am I missing something, Dan? How can I coax this young man's erection out of hiding?

Nouveau Mrs. Robinson

Before I get to your question. NMR, I need to address the recent Arnold Schwarzeneggerunpleasantness.

I'm getting a lot of mail from people insisting that it's all my fault. The affair, the love child, the split with Maria Shriver - I'm apparently to blame for everything, save Arnold's oldest son's slammin', nearly legal bod (tinyurl.com/3zsdmjf). This is the case because 1) I'm a big proponent of nonmonogamous/monogamish relationships, and 2) aging Hollywood action stars don't get erections without checking in with me first. And look where the nonmonogamy stuff I'm always pushing got Arnold! Look at the chaos that nonmonogamy creates! Failed marriages! Devastated children! Scandalous scandals!

In my defense, ladies and gentlemen of the angry e-mob, I would point out that Arnold wasn't in a nonmonogamous relationship. Arnold was in amonogamous relationship. Arnold failed at monogamy.He did not succeed at nonmonogamy. If there is a lesson to be drawn from the Schwarzeneggerunpleasantness, it's not thathonest nonmonogamy never works. Rather, it is the critical importance - particularly during adulterous heterosexual encounters - of anal intercourse.

And please bear in mind, e-mobsters, that you rarely hear about honest nonmonogamous relationships that work - i.e., marriages that were saved by nonmonogamy. Successfully nonmonogamous straight couples typically aren't out to their friends, families and coworkers. We tend to learn that someone we know is in a nonmonogamous relationship when it implodes and people cast around, looking for something or someone to blame. If the couple was nonmonogamous, nonmonogamy gets the blame, even if it had nothing to do with the breakup.

On to your problem, NMR …

What a delightful problem to have! A gorgeous, athletic and enthusiastic hunk with a hard dick is better than a gorgeous, athletic and enthusiastic hunk with a soft dick, I'll grant you. But better a gorgeous, athletic and enthusiastic hunk with a soft dick than no gorgeous, athletic and enthusiastic hunk at all, amirite?

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