Savage Love
Twenty-one-year-old female here. When we were both 14, my first boyfriend took advantage of me. I wanted to explore my sexuality a little, but...
| 5/22/2013
Tip Jar: local food news
This week: HUE closes, Vespr Craft Coffee opens, and look forward to Scotland at this year’s Epcot Food and Wine Festival
| 5/22/2013
Savage Love
Twenty-one-year-old female here. When we were both 14, my first boyfriend took advantage of me. I wanted to explore my sexuality a little, but...
| 5/22/2013
Savage Love
I have a mentally disabled cousin who I haven't figured out how to help. He’s lived for more than 40 years in the same nursing home in a small, conservative...
| 5/15/2013
Short takes
Dressing up as a woman, technical butt-plug question, steal some porn mags, drunk straight girls, spanking someone with consent is sexy, and more
| 5/15/2013
Savage Love
I’m a 24-year-old straight, married woman. I have been religiously reading your column since I was 16. I turn to you now for advice. Five months ago, I...
| 5/8/2013
Leave That Bum
Call a divorce lawyer, someone has to fuck some sense into ’em, nontransactional sex.
| 5/8/2013
She’s Pulled Up Stakes
Get the fuck away from each other, Don’t ask, don’t tell
| 5/1/2013
Savage Love
A Fleshlight In The Friend Zone
| 5/1/2013
Savage Love
DEAR READERS: Last week was made of problems. The bombing of the Boston Marathon, the explosion that leveled a small town in Texas, the rising tide of anti-gay...
| 4/24/2013
No Problem
Letters from people who don’t really have problems.
| 4/24/2013
Savage Love
My brother is 22 years old and mentally illwith social anxiety on the scale of agoraphobia (officially diagnosed). He’s made significant progress in the past...
| 3/27/2013
Savage Love
Consult Your Local Provider
| 3/27/2013
Savage Love
DEAR READERS: I'm off this week. To tide all of your hot and/or kinky and/or sore asses over, here's a column I wrote 15 years ago. Some newer readers might've...
| 3/20/2013
Savage Love
I'm an actor in New York City. A lot of people think actors are whores, but last week I almost became one. I responded to a casting call for a film project...
| 3/13/2013
Savage Love
My girlfriend and I read your column religiously, and I have you to thank for being comfortable enough with my kinks to tell her about my interest in BDSM.
| 3/6/2013
Locking it up
On whether male chastity devices post long-term problems
| 3/6/2013
Savage Love
I am writing about a friend. By all appearances, he is straight. However, on more than one occasion, he has gotten drunk and tried to hook up with a...
| 2/27/2013
Queer goggles
Why your pal chases manly ‘ladies’ when he’s bombed
| 2/27/2013
Built that way?
Pantsuits, Gay Strip Clubs, cubic zirconia, and shut the fuck up
| 2/20/2013
Savage Love
I'm a 31-year-old genderqueer from a large family. My only sister got engaged 48 hours ago, and she's moving fast on planning the wedding. I texted her...
| 2/20/2013
Savage Love
I'm a 37-year-old single father with a 14-year-old son. Overall he's a good kid. Our relationship isn't perfect – I work a lot and he's a teenager, but no major issues.
| 2/13/2013
Cuck you
Untangling what it means to be poly, open and into cuckolding
| 2/6/2013
Savage Love
I'm a 27-year-old man in a two-year relationship with a 26-year-old woman. My last partner cheated and lied and did some unforgivable things. Our breakup unearthed...
| 2/6/2013
Addicted to love?
Sex-negative therapists and the fallacy of 'sex addiction'
| 1/30/2013
Savage Love
I've been a fan of your Savage Lovecast for a long time, but I had to write after hearing Marty Klein's awesome talk about the fallacy of "sex addiction."
| 1/30/2013
Double-crossed
How to deal when your 'friend' posts cross-dressing pics of you on Facebook
| 1/23/2013
Savage Love
A friend of mine on the opposite coast is a cross-dresser considering transitioning. He came out to a female friend he had known for a long time...
| 1/23/2013
Presents for V.D.
Advice on sexy-gift shopping for your valentine
| 1/15/2013
Presents for V.D.
Advice on sexy-gift shopping for your valentine
| 1/15/2013
Savage Love
My name is Nancy, and I'm 19. Myboyfriend's Carl; we have been together for almost a year, and we have great sex frequently! I want to do...
| 1/16/2013
Gay panic attack
Dude, taking a shemale's member up the bum doesn't make you gay
| 1/9/2013
Savage Love
I'm a straight male, 21 years old. I love women. I love women, I love having sex with women. However, in the last year, here and there, I've jerked off to transsexual porn. One night, after drinking and smoking some hash, I arranged a date with a trans sex
| 1/9/2013
Short & Snappy
Quick queries and rapid responses
| 1/2/2013
Savage Love
More than a thousand people showed up for a recent Savage Love Live event at the University of Wisconsin-Madison. It goes without saying that the...
| 1/2/2013
Savage Love
I just started an intense relationship with a guy who has a boyfriend. This guy and I love each other. However, he is uncomfortable with me meeting his boyfriend.
| 12/26/2012
Holiday grab bag
Host of queries, and an after-Christmas miracle
| 12/26/2012
Savage Love
This is a touchy and gross subject. I am a 17-year-old girl growing up in an adoptive family in Australia. I was sexually abused by my birth family, and...
| 12/19/2012
Family matters
When sex comes a little too close to home
| 12/19/2012
Savage Love
At a dinner party, a straight man put a question to my boyfriend and me. He assumed that we, being gay men, would have an answer for him. We did...
| 12/12/2012
Built that way?
Who says poly isn't an orientation? Dan Savage gets an earful (and this week's column)
| 12/5/2012
Savage Love
I'm a straight man at that age where the general public still considers me young. Although I've attended many weddings, I have no interest in...
| 11/28/2012
Going it alone
Sorry Mom and Dad: More and more people are deciding to stay single longer
| 11/28/2012
Kickin' it
He wants it right in the jewels, but is it, like, sexual?
| 11/21/2012
Savage Love
I am a 22-year-old straight female. I used to babysit for a wealthy family, but their children have outgrown babysitters. The dad of this family is very into...
| 11/21/2012
Joy in the morning
Elation and congratulations over votes in favor of marriage equality
| 11/14/2012
Savage Love
Reading you over the years has absolutely changed my mind on gay marriage. I wanted to let you know that. I also live in Maryland, and (as you know) we voted last...
| 11/14/2012
Bored by blow jobs
I want more than hit-and-run oral from my new friend
| 11/7/2012
Savage Love
What the hell do I say to my straight 14-year-old son about porn? Should I say anything? My sister tells me that all the research shows my son has been...
| 10/24/2012
Savage Love
I'm pro-choice. The anti-choice position – particularly the dumb contention that "personhood" begins when sperm hits egg – is illogical and unappealing. It's not...
| 10/17/2012
Damn you, Dan!
Savage gets savaged for advice
| 10/17/2012
Her choice
How to find out if your boyfriend is merely troubled by abortion or a
pro-life zealot
| 10/10/2012
Savage Love
I recently discovered that my boyfriend of seven months and I have opposing viewpoints on the whole "life begins at conception" issue. He's not a...
| 10/10/2012
Savage Love
Last week, I appeared at a "Savage Love Live" event at Radford University in Radford, Va. Questions are submitted on index cards at SLL events...
| 10/3/2012
Quick shots
Speedy answers to selected questions from students at Radford University
| 10/3/2012
Savage Love
I was wondering what you think about the Folsom Street Fair, the annual gay leather/fetish/BDSM street fair in San Francisco. Do you think it is still a...
| 9/19/2012
Vanilla twist?
My favorite things are on the 'no' list, but is she worth it?
| 9/19/2012
Better than bananas
Aunt wants to give niece sex books and toys, but wants advice
| 9/12/2012
Boned at Burning Man?
Is man's burner girlfriend burning him while at Black Rock?
| 9/5/2012
Savage Love
I have been in a long-term relationship with a wonderful woman who doesn't have a lot of people she socializes with in her daily life. She is a Burning Man person...
| 9/5/2012
Savage Love
Not sure that even you can help with this one, but I'll give it a shot …
My husband and I enjoy a solid, trusting BDSM relationship, and we're both quite...
| 8/29/2012
In dreams
Sexual mishaps while sleeping make for mail
| 8/29/2012
Savage Love
I am a college-age gay man. Last year, I dated two guys. The first – let's call him Mitt – I dated for five months. He broke up with me, and it hurt as much as...
| 8/22/2012
Do unto others
He gets what he wants. How about a little tongue for her?
| 8/22/2012
Advice from a crush
Girl has the hots for Tegan and Sara; that's funny, because Dan
happens to have Tegan right here
| 8/15/2012
Savage Love
I've been confused about my sexuality for two years. I am a 22-year-old female. I liked guys when I was in school, but then, in perhaps the most stereotypical of...
| 8/15/2012
Savage Love
DEAR READERS: I'm on vacation for the next two weeks. This week's column features three recent Savage Love Letters of the Day. (The SLLOTD goes out to folks who...
| 8/8/2012
Daily questions
While Dan's on vacation, we draw from the Letter of the Day files
| 8/8/2012
Savage Love
I have a question regarding pornography usage and browser histories. As a matter of courtesy to my wife (and anyone else who may use our devices), I always clear...
| 8/2/2012
Sex toy etiquette
Tactful house guests won't mention what they find
| 8/1/2012
Condom condemnation?
The pill is bad for her. He rejects rubbers. Can Dan help them?
| 7/25/2012