Straight female with a question. It’s about something that sometimes happens to me that I’ve never really told anyone about because it’s so weird and gross. It involves my bowel movements, so it’s not very sexy. (No offense to scat lovers, but I have zero i
Poop-gasms? Spooch? This and more in a particularly graphic edition of Savage Love.
Savage Love: Moist Toilette
Straight female with a question. It’s about something that sometimes happens to me that I’ve never really told anyone about because it’s so...
“The same creeps, jerks, and assholes on standard dating sites are on BDSM-centric sites.”
I’m a straight 24-year-old female, and I just recently lost my virginity. I’ve had sex only three times and have found each time to be incredibly painful – even when the guy’s just using his fingers. I’ve always been extremely sensitive. In the past, I’v
DEAR READERS: Sophia Wallace, the NYC-based conceptual artist behind the amazing Cliteracy project, was a guest on my podcast recently. (To hear our conversation, go to
savagelovecast.com and look up episode 371.) During our chat, Wallace told me that
I’m a 28-year-old woman in a relationship for 3.5 years with a wonderful man, also 28. I hit the jackpot: He is loving, sweet, kind, driven, active, handsome, generous, etc. We’re very committed to each other and planning our future together. We’ve lived to
I recently ended a relationship that lasted a year and five months. While I loved this woman, for much of the relationship she was, to varying degrees, depressed. I tried to be as helpful and patient as possible with the hope and expectation that she would
Savage Love: Basics, bitches
I’m a heterosexual guy in my early 20s. I’ve been dating my girlfriend for about six months, and we’ve been having some fights recently. The...
Libido in limbo
Have sex the way the good lord intended us to, i.e., in the dark with our pitiful/regretful/hooded boyfriends.
I'm a heterosexual guy in my early 20s. I've been dating my girlfriend for about six months, and we've been having some fights recently. The problem: I have a high sex drive in comparison to hers.
Savage Love: Your sister’s keeper
Two years ago, I found a letter in my sister’s car informing her that the blood she gave during a charity blood drive had tested positive for HIV...
You can’t be trusted alone in her car with her mail, obviously, but you’ve proven that you aren’t going to blab about this to the family.
Two years ago, I found a letter in my sister’s car informing her that the blood she gave during a charity blood drive had tested positive for HIV. I didn’t say anything to her at the time, because I wasn’t supposed to find out, and I didn’t know what to say
Sexual initiation, suicide threats, BBW porn, and hate crimes
My girlfriend always responds positively when I initiate sex, but she hardly ever initiates. I’m a no-beat-around-the-bush kind of guy, but I don’t want...
Lotion in Motion
Your girlfriend probably doesn’t want you looking at porn at all—saying it’s OK, snooping, and grilling aren’t signs of “OK with porn.”
Savage Love: Lotion Up
My girlfriend always responds positively when I initiate sex with her, but she hardly ever initiates sex with me. I’m a no-beat-around-the-bush kind of guy...
I’m a 23-year-old homo who came out a year ago. Life has done good and bad things to me. Good things include success in the intelligence lottery, a full ride to college and now a job with a six-figure income. Sadly, I find that my place in life is differ
Out and Snobby
There’s nothing like dating or fucking a person of another background, race, or class to help you see the humanity in everyone.
Savage Love: Clueless
I’m a 23-year-old homo who came out one year ago. Life has done good and bad things to me. Good things include success in the intelligence...